Addiction & Grace
Gerald G. May
Addiction & Grace offers wise and compassionate discussion of addiction, providing a critical yet hopeful guide to freedom based on contemplative spirituality. Gerald May examines the “processes of attachment” that lead to addiction and describes the relationship between addiction and spiritual awareness. He also details the various addictions from which we can suffer, not only to substances like alcohol and drugs, but to work, sex, performance, responsibility, and intimacy. Drawing on his experience as a psychiatrist working with the chemically dependent, May emphasizes that addiction represents an attempt to assert control over our lives.
Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries give definition to who we are and who we are not. Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask, “Can I set limits and still be a loving person? How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? Aren’t boundaries selfish?” Boundaries offers biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.
Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances; mental boundaries give us freedom to have thoughts and opinions; emotional boundaries help us deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others; and spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God’s will from our own and give us a renewed awe for our Creator.
We also recommend:
Every Single Woman’s Battle, Shannon Ethridge
Love Is a Choice, Dr. Robert Hemfelt, Dr. Frank Minirth, and Dr. Paul Meier
Safe People, Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
Dating and Premarital
Mike and Ann Rizzo
Your marriage is approaching — among the myriad of preparations you can make, what is most important for a lasting, healthy relationship? Understanding that marriage is not eternal, but its fruit is, Mike and Anne Rizzo, seasoned marriage counselors, turn our gaze Godward. A vertical focus, on God, becomes the best foundation for building a beautiful, life-long relationship with your future spouse. Vertical Marriage is a practical premarital manual for use by engaged couples, marriage counselors, or those already married, who desire to establish a powerful partnership of eternal significance.
The Sacred Search: What If It’s Not about Who You Marry, But Why?
Mike and Ann Rizzo
What if you stopped looking for a “soul mate” and started looking for a “sole mate”—someone who will live out with you the great purpose of God? What if dating isn’t about finding “the one” but making a wise choice so you can better serve the One who loves you most? What if God didn’t design relationships to make you happy but to make you holy? In The Sacred Search, Gary Thomas will transform the way you look at romantic relationships. Whether you are single, dating, or engaged, Gary’s unique perspective on dating will prepare you for a satisfying, spiritually enriching marriage even before you walk down the aisle. As Gary reminds us, a good marriage is not something you find—it’s something you make.
Dating and Preparation for Marriage CD Single
Mike and Diane Bickle, and Allen and Rachel Hood
What should my boundaries be in dating?
How can I best prepare for a successful and happy marriage?
What are the keys to avoiding disillusionment in marriage?
How do I know if we are “right” for each other?
As more and more families and marriages are breaking down,many young people are fearful of relationships and want to know what the Bible says about dating and marriage.
Mike and Diane join Allen and Rachel in honest and open discussion of godly principles and practical advice for dating, engagement, and marriage. Sharing from the Word of God and their own personal stories, these two couples offer hope and encouragement to anyone desiring to be married, giving guidance on how to lay a strong foundation for a godly and happy marriage and family.
Robert S. McGee
In the hearts of many men and women is a longing for the blessing only a father can give. Robert McGee understands the impact of this father hunger from his own experience and from his work as a Christian counselor. The need for a father’s love affects all of our relationships and often shapes the way we think about God. With honesty and spiritual insight, McGee tackles this difficult issue in order to draw the reader into a stronger and more confident relationship with their heavenly Father.
Same-Sex Attraction, Gender/Transgender Confusion
Setting Love in Order: Hope and Healing for the Homosexual
Telling his own story with great courage and vulnerability, Mario Bergner describes his struggle to be free from “disordered love,” and addresses a controversial issue in a redemptive, biblically-sound manner.
We also recommend:
Out of Egypt: One Woman’s Journey out of Lesbianism, Jeanette Howard
Restoring Sexual Identity, Anne Paulk
Homosexuality: A New Christian Ethic, Elizabeth Moberly
Straight and Narrow? Compassion and Clarity in the Homosexuality Debate, Thomas Schmidt
Your marriage is much more than a union between you and your spouse. It is a spiritual discipline ideally suited to help you know God more fully and intimately. Sacred Marriage shifts the focus from marital enrichment to spiritual enrichment in ways that can help you love your mate more. Whether it is delightful or difficult, your marriage can become a doorway to a closer walk with God. Everything about your marriage—everything from the history you and your spouse create, to the love you share, to the forgiveness you both offer and seek by turn—is filled with the capacity to help you grow in Christ’s character.
Based on the acclaimed sermon series by New York Times bestselling author Timothy Keller, this book shows everyone—Christians, skeptics, singles, longtime married couples, and those about to be engaged—the vision of what marriage should be according to the Bible. Modern culture would have you believe that everyone has a soul mate; that romance is the most important part of a successful marriage; that your spouse is there to help you realize your potential; that marriage does not mean forever, but merely for now; and that starting over after a divorce is the best solution to seemingly intractable marriage issues. But these modern-day assumptions are wrong. Timothy Keller, with insights from Kathy, his wife of thirty-seven years, shows marriage to be a glorious relationship that is also misunderstood and mysterious. The Meaning of Marriage offers instruction on how to have a successful marriage, and is essential reading for anyone who wants to know God and love more deeply in this life.
The chasm between the biblical vision of marriage and the common human conception is—and has always been—gargantuan. Reflecting on over forty years of matrimony, John Piper exalts the biblical meaning of marriage over its emotion, exhorting couples to keep their covenant as a display of Christ’s covenant-keeping love for the church. He aims to lift the church’s low view of marriage to something infinitely greater, namely, a vision of Jesus’ unswerving allegiance to and affection for his bride. This Momentary Marriage unpacks the biblical vision, its unexpected contours, and its weighty implications for married, single, divorced, and remarried alike. Now available in paperback with a freshly redesigned cover, Piper’s book on marriage holds even greater appeal.
Love and War: Find Your Way to Something Beautiful in Your Marriage
John & Stasi Eldgredge
With astonishing vulnerability that engages readers from the first page, John and Stasi Eldredge openly discuss their own marriage and the breakthroughs they have won from the challenges they’ve faced. Each talks to the reader about what he and she have learned, providing a balance between male and female perspectives that has been absent from previous books on this topic.
John and Stasi begin Love & War with an obvious confession: Marriage is fabulously hard. But beneath and behind the inevitable tensions a man and woman “locked in the same submarine” are going to have, the real battle is against the work of the Enemy, who plots and schemes to tear love apart. The Eldredges show how couples can win “by fighting for each other, instead of against each other.” As they say, “We live in a great love story, set in the midst of war.”
“This is a book of wisdom and hope…a beautiful labor that will move your marriage to far deeper joy.” Dan. B. Allender, author of The Wounded Heart
God’s Power to Change: Healing the Wounded Spirit
John Loren and Paula Sandford
Fear of rejection, loneliness, depression, grief, and isolation. Who hasn’t experienced these feelings? Many Christians wonder why their lives don’t demonstrate the victorious living they desire. They ask, “Why can’t I overcome in certain areas in my life? Why is it so difficult for me to change? If I am a Christian, why do I fall into the same sinful patterns again and again?” In God’s Power to Change, readers will learn how to heal their inner spirits and the spirit of each person to whom they minister. Through the power of God’s Word and the Holy Spirit, we can—and will—change!
We also recommend:
Seven Longings of the Human Heart, Mike Bickle
After God’s Own Heart, Mike Bickle
Growing Pains, John Loren and Paula Sandford
Healing for Damaged Emotions Workbook, David A. Seamands and Beth Funk
Healing Life’s Deepest Hurts, Edward M. Smith
How to Stop the Pain, Dr. James B. Richards
Letting Go of Your Past, John Loren and Paula Sandford
Life Together, Dietrich Bonhoeffer
Listening Prayer, Dave and Linda Olson
Preventing Ministry Failure, Michael Wilson and Brad Hoffman
Moral Revolution: The Naked Truth About Sexual Purity, Kris Vallotton
Sheep in Wolves’ Clothing, Valerie J. McIntyre
Strength in Weakness, Andrew Comiskey
The Inner Voice of Love, Henri J. M. Nouwen
The Life Model: Living from the Heart Jesus Gave You, James G. Friesen and E. James Wilder
Transforming the Inner Man, John Loren and Paula Sandford
Toxic Faith, Stephen Arterburn and Jack Felton
Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s Soul, John Eldredge
The Wounded Heart
Dr. Dan B. Allender
Sexual abuse knows no religious or social boundaries. The Wounded Heart is an intensely personal and specific look at this form of abuse. Dr. Allender explores the secret lament of the soul damaged by sexual abuse and lays hold of the hope buried there by the One whose unstained image we all bear. This book also includes information about false memory issues.
We also recommend:
Beauty for Ashes, Joyce Meyer
Door of Hope: Recognizing and Resolving the Pains of Your Past, Jan Frank
From Shame to Peace: Counseling and Caring for the Sexually Abused, Teo van der Weele
Pain and Pretending, Rich Buhler
Sexual Addiction and Pornography
Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction
Dr. Mark R. Laaser
As devastating as any drug habit, sexual addiction brings heartbreak and despair to those it entangles. This book offers a path out of compulsive thoughts and behaviors and into healing and transformation. Sensitive to the shame that comes with sexual addiction, yet without minimizing its sinfulness, Dr. Mark Laaser traces the roots of the problem, discusses its patterns and impact, and maps out a biblical approach to self-control and sexual integrity.
We also recommend:
No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction, Marnie C. Ferree
The Final Freedom: Pioneering Sexual Addiction Recovery, Douglas Weiss
Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain, William M. Struthers
False Intimacy, Dr. Harry W. Schaumburg
Healing the Shame That Binds You
John Bradshaw shows us how toxic shame can be at the root of our compulsion, codependence, addiction, and drive to overachieve. The result is a breakdown in our family systems and ability to move our lives forward.
We also recommend:
Homecoming: Reclaiming and Healing Your Inner Child, John Bradshaw
Shame and Grace: Healing the Shame We Don’t Deserve, Lewis B. Smedes